A girl who studies medicine will qualify if she works hard
enough-but it is true that women patients prefer male doctors and so do men. A
girl may qualify as an architect or an engineer and if she can get employers to
regard her seriously she may do well. Evidence is that women who learn a trade
like electrical engineering or radio operating can find no employment. Female
chemists and scientists can win the Nobel Prize, if they are researchers, but
they are unlikely to become heads of professional research establishments. In
chasing all these asexual academic attainments a girl faces one relentless
enemy-her family.
The constant recriminations, the lamentations that she is
missing out on what makes being a girl such fun, on dating and pretty clothes,
that she will waste her training by getting married and so forth, the whole
tiresome rigmarole, wears down her resistance from day to day. The pressure of
home duties which are spared by a boy in her situation is not relieved, unless
she goes away to study at a distant university, an expedient which may meet
with parental disapproval. A girls emotional welfare is so much a matter of the demeanor of men towards her that she may jeopardize her academic chances by
emotional involvement…....men may take their pleasures how and where they will or
not at all: girls feel rejected without male attention, and degraded by
anything less than total involvement, and as long as this is the case, they are
likely to be academic casualties…
.......Not all the women in history have been humble and
subservient to such an extent. It is nonsense to say that a woman feels nothing
when a man is moving his penis in her vagina: the orgasm is qualitatively different
when the vagina can undulate around the penis instead of vacancy.
The differentiation
between the simple inevitable pleasure of men and the tricky responses of women
is not altogether valid. If ejaculation meant release for all men, given the
constant manufacture of sperm and the resultant pressure to have intercourse,
men could copulate without transport or disappointment with anyone.
The process described by the experts in which the man
dutifully does the rounds of the erogenous zones, spends an equal amount of time
on each nipple, turns his attention to the clitoris(usually too directly),leads
through the stages of digital or lingual stimulation and then politely lets
himself into the vagina, perhaps waiting until the retracting of the clitoris tells
him that he is welcome, is laborious and
inhumanely computerized.
The implication that there is a statistically ideal fuck
which will always result in satisfaction if the right procedures are followed is
depressing and misleading. There is no substitute for excitement: not all the
massage in the world will ensure satisfaction, for it is a matter of psycho-sexual
release. Real gratification is not enshrined in a tiny cluster of nerves but in
the sexual involvement of the whole person. Women’s continued high enjoyment of
sex, which continues after orgasm, observed by men with wonder, is not based on
the clitoris, which does not respond particularly well to continued stimulus, but
in a general sensual response. If we localize female response in the clitoris
we impose upon women the same limitation of sex which has stunted the male’s
response. The male sexual ideal of virility without languor or amorousness is
profoundly desolating: when the release is expressed in mechanical terms it is
sought mechanically. Sex becomes masturbation in the vagina.
