Yeah...So we say we want a "Nice" guy but actually
we don’t.
We want a GREAT guy.
We don’t want someone agreeing with us all the time.
For example I personally like thrillers, so am like: “wanna shut down the
lights so I can slot in Evil Mania? (or some such movie) and he’s like “sure
thing” even though he’s more of action movies, but he wants me to like him so
he will agree to it.
“Can we go
out for some ice cream?’ All he really wants is to watch football but: “yeah
ok, name the place and time ama be there”
Me: “I really like E-News and Keeping up with the
Kardashians”
The Chi Nice guy: ”Me too!”
No! We don’t want a Yes this Yes that guy, we want a
guy with principles.
A guy who
really understands and respects himself
Nice guys respect themselves in a way, but they
always agree. Whenever they're out on a date with a woman, they're always
agreeing with everything she says
Here’s the thing,
you will never get a second date after the first because guess what?, you are boring.
What being so
agreeable tells a woman is that you do not have enough self-respect to stand up
to your own values. You don't think enough of yourself to own your identity, so
you become accommodating, inoffensive and boring. You become the boring nice
guy nobody wants to date.
When you’re attracted to a woman, you do everything
you can to please her. She's got a cold? You’ll bring her cold medicine. She
tells you she's got a headache tonight? You drive her home. She tells you that
she can't see you this weekend, you'll say, “Oh, that's OK. We'll get together
whenever you're ready.”
You don't have a plan.
He’s too scared to live his own life, too scared to
do what he wants to do.
Women don't want power over a man like that.
What women want is a man. They want a leader — a
great guy who will lead them. A guy who, when he dates them, takes them places
and takes care of things his way, who stands up for who he is and will debate
her on topics if he doesn't agree with her( I personally like debates hehe).
Nice guys never stand up for themselves, because that’s
what nice guys do.
They've got
this fear that they can’t get the woman they truly want, so they take whatever
they can get.
The nice guy will tend to treat his
date very well-All the time.
EVEN, when they don't deserve it
No matter how a partner is treating
them, the nice person will continue to treat them well.
They
literally beg their way into a relationship. And she will know, she basically
has him by the balls
He often "thinks" that
such good treatment will one day be recognized.
What you are doing is that you are rewarding
her for bad behavior.
The “not so nice” guy has boundaries.
He will reward only when a partner earns them.
Disrespectful behavior is ignored.
This lets your partner know what you
do and do not tolerate and what they will expect.
When you are “nice” all the time you
will be walked on all the time.
You are always available and eager
to please even when you have other commitments. Thinking this will lead to
gratitude.
Don’t be too available, see the
illusion of scarcity is that, it makes you SEEM valuable.
When you drop everything you are
doing to make time for her she will appreciate the time you have “given”
So
Mr Nice guy,you would look a little more valuable if you didn't drop everything
to be at your ka lover's beck-and-call.
If you were a little harder to get, your ka
girl would find you more enticing.
That’s why some of us women take our sweet time to hang
out with a guy,get to know him,we want him to appreciate what he has worked
for.
If you're nice, that's great, but what you really
want to be is a great guy. You want to be a man who treats people well and also
stands up to his own principles. You want to be a man who stands on his own two
feet and isn't afraid to stand up to a woman just because you’re attracted to
her.
You want to be a man who leads, a man who decides if
he wants to pursue the relationship or not, not a nice guy who tries to conform
to her wants every which way and puts himself in the beggar's role. Nice guys
are beggars. Great guys are catches.
Believe you are IT. You have to live your life in a way that you truly want and not give it up just to make your girl happy, you will be resentful pa last-let me not comfort you,you shall continue being like that for as long as you dont make some "changes".
She will push you in the friend zone kaili its like you dont know what you want and to make matters worse you are also boring but we cant tell you that. Same way guys claim they cant tell a girl its over,we cant tell a guy he's boring-to put it the way guys put it..it would be "rude" so we save you further misery.
You have to know that you are a great, interesting person to date. Women want to be with a guy who knows he can actually get laid by other women but chooses to be with her. Women don’t want to be with a guy because she is his only option.
If you’re nice at heart, you’re nice. You treat people well. That’s ok, Embrace it — it’s a great quality to have.
That’s not to say you should be a jerk! Just learn from the “Jerks”,the “great guys”.
Don’t hide it by playing games and trying to be a bad boy.
Invest in your date as much as she invests in you.
Don’t let your life revolve around them.
We women have the tendency to do that too.
Let them accommodate you too, it shows you are a person with value and self-respect which is very attractive.
But what you need to do is be a great guy. Don’t be nice just to get a woman to like you. It never works.
Right! Its Valentine's Day tomorrow even,be the great guy. Not so into the Valentine fuss myself though.
Inspite of my previous funny dates and i had vowed never to look at another man, i'm currently into a great guy.
I will not delve much into that right now-but just know that he's great-not perfect but great anyways. He's kinda harnessed out my serene side so i like that.
So yeah as i was saying,more often than not, the “nice” guy or even girl in fact! finishes last........
..and the “bitch” gets the job done-but that’s another chat! I been up since 1.a.m,and really need to get ready for work.
XOXO
