The "Nice" Guy

Yeah...So we say we want a "Nice" guy but actually we don’t.

We want a GREAT guy.

We don’t want someone agreeing with us all the time. For example I personally like thrillers, so am like: “wanna shut down the lights so I can slot in Evil Mania? (or some such movie) and he’s like “sure thing” even though he’s more of action movies, but he wants me to like him so he will agree to it.

 “Can we go out for some ice cream?’ All he really wants is to watch football but: “yeah ok, name the place and time ama be there”

Me: “I really like E-News and Keeping up with the Kardashians”

The Chi Nice guy: ”Me too!”

No! We don’t want a Yes this Yes that guy, we want a guy with principles.

 A guy who really understands and respects himself

Nice guys respect themselves in a way, but they always agree. Whenever they're out on a date with a woman, they're always agreeing with everything she says

 Here’s the thing, you will never get a second date after the first because guess  what?, you are boring.

 What being so agreeable tells a woman is that you do not have enough self-respect to stand up to your own values. You don't think enough of yourself to own your identity, so you become accommodating, inoffensive and boring. You become the boring nice guy nobody wants to date.

When you’re attracted to a woman, you do everything you can to please her. She's got a cold? You’ll bring her cold medicine. She tells you she's got a headache tonight? You drive her home. She tells you that she can't see you this weekend, you'll say, “Oh, that's OK. We'll get together whenever you're ready.”

You don't have a plan.

He’s too scared to live his own life, too scared to do what he wants to do.

Women don't want power over a man like that.

What women want is a man. They want a leader — a great guy who will lead them. A guy who, when he dates them, takes them places and takes care of things his way, who stands up for who he is and will debate her on topics if he doesn't agree with her( I personally like debates hehe).

Nice guys never stand up for themselves, because that’s what nice guys do.

 They've got this fear that they can’t get the woman they truly want, so they take whatever they can get.

The nice guy will tend to treat his date very well-All the time.

 EVEN, when they don't deserve it

No matter how a partner is treating them, the nice person will continue to treat them well.

They literally beg their way into a relationship. And she will know, she basically has him by the balls

He often "thinks" that such good treatment will one day be recognized.

What you are doing is that you are rewarding her for bad behavior.

The “not so nice” guy has boundaries. He will reward only when a partner earns them.

Disrespectful behavior is ignored.

This lets your partner know what you do and do not tolerate and what they will expect.

When you are “nice” all the time you will be walked on all the time.

You are always available and eager to please even when you have other commitments. Thinking this will lead to gratitude.

Don’t be too available, see the illusion of scarcity is that, it makes you SEEM valuable.

When you drop everything you are doing to make time for her she will appreciate the time you have “given”

So Mr Nice guy,you would look a little more valuable if you didn't drop everything to be at your ka lover's beck-and-call.

 If you were a little harder to get, your ka girl would find you more enticing.

That’s why  some of us women take our sweet time to hang out with a guy,get to know him,we want him to appreciate what he has worked for.  

If you're nice, that's great, but what you really want to be is a great guy. You want to be a man who treats people well and also stands up to his own principles. You want to be a man who stands on his own two feet and isn't afraid to stand up to a woman just because you’re attracted to her.

You want to be a man who leads, a man who decides if he wants to pursue the relationship or not, not a nice guy who tries to conform to her wants every which way and puts himself in the beggar's role. Nice guys are beggars. Great guys are catches.

Believe you are IT.
You have to live your life in a way that you truly want and not give it up just to make your girl happy, you will be resentful pa last-let me not comfort you,you shall continue being like that for as long as you dont make some "changes".
She will push you in the friend zone kaili its like you dont know what you want and to make matters worse you are also boring but we cant tell you that. Same way guys claim they cant tell a girl its over,we cant tell a guy he's boring-to put it the way guys put it..it would be "rude" so we save you further misery.

You have to know that you are a great, interesting person to date. Women want to be with a guy who knows he can actually get laid by other women but chooses to be with her. Women don’t want to be with a guy because she is his only option.
If you’re nice at heart, you’re nice. You treat people well. That’s ok, Embrace it — it’s a great quality to have.
That’s not to say you should be a jerk! Just learn from the “Jerks”,the “great guys”.
Don’t hide it by playing games and trying to be a bad boy.
Invest in your date as much as she invests in you.
Don’t let your life revolve around them.
We women have the tendency to do that too.
Let them accommodate you too,  it shows you are a person with value and self-respect which is very attractive.
But what you need to do is be a great guy. Don’t be nice just to get a woman to like you. It never works.
Right! Its Valentine's Day tomorrow even,be the great guy. Not so into the Valentine fuss myself though. 
Inspite of my previous funny dates and i had vowed never to look at another man, i'm currently into a great guy. 
I will not delve much into that right now-but just know that he's great-not perfect but great anyways. He's kinda harnessed out my serene side so i like that.
So yeah as i was saying,more often than not, the “nice” guy or even girl in fact! finishes last........
..and the “bitch” gets the job done-but that’s another chat! I been up since 1.a.m,and really need to get ready for work.

XOXO